Bonding with baby for fathers

Armin Brott, Author and Father, shares advice on how to help new dads bond with their newborn baby
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Bonding with baby for fathers

Most new fathers come into the whole new father thing without a lot of experience with kids. Their partners probably did some babysitting and most likely the guys didn't. So a natural question is that I get a lot, which is, "What am I supposed to do with this thing now that we've got this baby around?" And the first thing that you need to be prepared for is the first couple months are going to be tough. They're not going to be doing anything and you're gonna be standing on your head telling jokes and doing things and you're going to get no response from your child. As the child gets older, you'll be able to get more response. And really is all about spending time together and paying attention to what's going on with the child; that the time that you spend is where the relationship building comes from. You're not going to be able to tune in at age two and say, "Okay, I want to have a great relationship." It's the simplest things; making the baby a part of your life, plop the baby in a stroller and you go to the grocery store. Think of all the fantastic things you can learn in a grocery store. I remember doing this with my kids. "Look, here's a kiwi. That feels really cool, doesn't it? Here's a coconut. That feels different." Just those kinds of things build the relationship between you and your child, you get used to the baby, baby gets used to you, and that's really what it's all about.

Armin Brott, Author and Father, shares advice on how to help new dads bond with their newborn baby


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Armin Brott

Dad, Author & Radio Host

A former Marine, Armin Brott has devoted the last 15 years to providing men with the tools, support, and knowledge to help them become the fathers they want to be—and their families need them to be. His seven critically acclaimed books for fathers have sold well over a million copies. Titles include The Expectant Father: Facts, Tips, and Advice for Dads-to-Be and The New Father: A Dad’s Guide to the First Year. He has written on fatherhood for hundreds of newspapers and magazines and is a frequent guest on such television programs as the Today Show. He also writes a nationally syndicated newspaper column (Ask Mr. Dad), and hosts a syndicated radio show (Positive Parenting). He lives with his family in Oakland, California.

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